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Rufus is a CONTROL FREAK

Rufus is the snooty, know it all, art critic that lives inside the mind of every artist.
 
We've talked about Rufus's isolation tactics. He doesn't want you to have contact with your support group because the less you see and hear from them, the more you see and hear of him.
 
You see, isolation was just the first step in his dastardly plan.
 
Once Rufus gets you where he wants you, he berates and belittles you until you feel so insignificant that you start to give up bits and pieces of your control. And where do those bits and pieces go?
 
You are forfeiting them of your own "free will" to Rufus. But wait...is that really your "free will" decision?
 
🛑 NO! 🛑
 
Rufus is a CONTROL FREAK! He will smooth talk his way into your mind and isolate you from the people, places, and things that you love. Then, he flips a switch and makes you believe you are worthless and that it is all your fault.
 
Feelings of guilt, shame, and depression are just one snarky remark away then, and the remark is disguised in the form of "constructive criticism."
 
But my friend, not every critique is constructive, and trust me, Rufus is NOT constructive. His entire goal is to provide you with destructive criticism to boost his power in the relationship. It is manipulative, and the relationship that Rufus wants to form with you is entirely conditional.
 
So, take this first step - recognize that you are good enough, that you have the potential to be a flourishing artist.
 
Now, take the next step, and this one can definitely be difficult. But you need to do it - reconnect with your support system. It's okay. I promise they never left you. They just couldn't reach you beyond Rufus's lies.
 
Finally, take back control of your life and your future. The power is in your hands, and Rufus does NOT control that. Some of the things Rufus convinced you to believe about yourself will leave scars, but scars bring with them the potential to heal if you will stop opening them back up.
 
All of this is easier said than done, but that's what your support group is there and WANTS to be there for. We are all in this together. Don't give Rufus control.
 
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